Other-orientation isn't your fault — it's usually a protective mechanism formed in childhood. But in adulthood, it may no longer be protection; it may be depletion
Learned helplessness isn't laziness — it's a deeply ingrained belief that effort doesn't change outcomes, formed through repeated past failures.
'I have to earn my place to be loved' — this belief sounds reasonable but is the source of chronic anxiety and exhaustion. Counseling psychologist Chou Mu-Tzu's short video names the core trap of conditional love.